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Post by theodora102 on Mar 3, 2017 21:45:51 GMT -5
Hey guys! So I'll try to make this as short as possible. My long distance boyfriend is coming to meet me for the first time in person this weekend!! I'm super excited and really nervous, for obvious reasons. But also because I don't want to catch anything. He's coming in on a bus and he's not the most cautious of germs. I want to be able to hug him and kiss him but I don't want to get sick either
Worst of all, I just want it to be perfect. He knows I have OCD and I fear germs but I don't want to look weird in front of him either. I just want to be his dream girl like he's my dream guy. And that probably doesn't involve making him wipe down in Clorox wipes before I hug him for the first time, lol
I'm already going through a rough patch as it seems EVERYONE at my school had something crazy the last month- laringitus, strep, bronchitis, food poisoning. Everything weird was out there! Thankfully I just got a small cold and could shake it pretty quick but I'm still so scared there's germs EVERYWHERE
Idk if it's because of all that illness and then on top of it, I'm seeing him and I'm scared he won't like me or won't think I'm pretty or he'll find my quirks weird. Idk.
I just want to be able to hug him after six months and not be paranoid. Can anyone offer any help?
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Post by Jess44246 on Mar 4, 2017 1:20:41 GMT -5
You kind of just have to forget your normal ways and go for it. It's not as hard as it seems to stop thinking about germs and just love somebody. Whenever my bf and I are together, I completely forget about germs because the feeling of love overwhelmes me, allowing me to hug and kiss him and stuff even if he's probably germy from school. If you want him to like you, show that you can be brave and just go for it!
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Post by theodora102 on Mar 4, 2017 2:38:29 GMT -5
Thanks a lot! I'm hoping you're right. I talked to my mom about it a little, as embarrassing as that was lol. She brought up a good point: lots of people hug and kiss their significant others daily. Nothing happens to them. Plus it's not like he doesn't know about my OCD. He suffers too. Worst comes to worst, I have a panic attack with him and if he can't handle it, then that's something important I need to know before I get serious with him. Right? Ugh I'm just stressing!! Thanks so much though!! Honestly, I hope you're right! When I talk to him I don't really worry about anything. I hope it's that way in person too
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dahliaolive
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Post by dahliaolive on Mar 4, 2017 8:42:12 GMT -5
Are you in a situation where you could give him a chance to shower before meeting up? "Freshen up", etc. I would say something like that..."hey, if you want to, take a little time to freshen up at your hotel or whatever...shower, etc...wash the travel off...then we'll meet up!"
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Post by Jess44246 on Mar 4, 2017 14:26:57 GMT -5
Are you in a situation where you could give him a chance to shower before meeting up? "Freshen up", etc. I would say something like that..."hey, if you want to, take a little time to freshen up at your hotel or whatever...shower, etc...wash the travel off...then we'll meet up!" If he is OCD, than he'll probably actually like to "freshen up." Perhaps not right now, but before you get serious discussing your issues is important, but when the moment is right.
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Post by theodora102 on Mar 7, 2017 21:44:07 GMT -5
Thanks again guys for all your help! To be honest, it couldn't have gone better. I hugged him from the second I saw him and I forgot all about stupid germs or whatever. I was just happy to be with him. Plus he's the most understanding guy when it comes to keeping me and my area clean enough to be comfortable while still reminding me that it's just to prevent anxiety, not the actual illnesses I think I could catch.
So thanks for everything!! I feel like this was a HUGE step forward in recovery and I couldn't have done it without you all supporting me too!!
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Post by oliviaaxx on Mar 7, 2017 22:24:59 GMT -5
Yay! So happy it went well I know how hard it can be to be in a relationship with this fear.
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