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Post by kirbear on Jan 11, 2017 4:00:18 GMT -5
So, as you can see from previous posts I had a meltdown at work because people were complaining about feeling n*.
My supervisor was great and she said I could take the next couple of days off. Anyway, I braved it and went in the next day. My boss has been off but my supervisor said 'don't worry I don't think it's anything like that, she hasn't said just that she's unwell'. Another person said she was off with a bad back. So me thinking ah bad back, I'm ok to come to work. I get to work today and boss is back, she's been off because she's been throwing up!!
I have walked out and I'm currently sat in my car. I called my supervisor and she said 'oh I didn't know what she was off with all she said was she couldn't keep anything down so I didn't know if v* or not'!!!! For Christ sakes, so you DID know what she was off with and you blatantly lied. She is now going to speak to my boss to find out when she was last s* but I bet my boss lies! I am waiting for her to phone me I have said I'm not going back in.
I am so so mad and scared now because I was in my bosses office yesterday (while she was off) and I have been in to work this morning.
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Post by Razzle on Jan 11, 2017 6:46:11 GMT -5
Honestly this sort of happened to me, my boyfriend was complaining of n* for a day or two and I was under the assumption is was anxiety or from pain, but then he came clean and said he v* for 3 hours one night. My mom has also told me she had a day of d* when I was at my boyfriend's house but didn't tell me until months later saying "I did not want to scare you if it wasn't anything serious, which it wasn't"
I get kind of mad that they lie to me for a few reasons...1, they lie, and 2, it puts me at more risk since I am exposed in a "safe" environment or one that I am in daily. With that said, it also makes me feel terrible that my loved ones feel the need to do this to keep me sane.
Anyway onto your post. I get that you're upset especially at the idea of being exposed to our boss's things. But I highly doubt anything will come of it. I would suggest simply trying to relax (hard, I know!) Keep your hands washed, but don't run from work, it may only reinforce your fear. Don't ask your boss any questions about it and just try to mind yourself. You will be totally fine!
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Post by kirbear on Jan 11, 2017 7:00:29 GMT -5
I am already home in my 'safe place'. I was proud of myself for going in yesterday but I just can't cope today. I have booked it as a day holiday and when I am back next week (I only work part time) I just hope nobody else has come down with it.
I have told people that they must tell me if they are ill, I would rather know. I was never like this, I no longer want to be like this but I feel like there's no way out. I have had counselling and CBT but I feel worse than I ever have. Exposure therapy sounds like hell but I spent my whole pregnancy v* so I have been exposed enough but I'm still afraid xx
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Post by janebug on Jan 11, 2017 7:28:15 GMT -5
There's nothing worse than when people lie about v*. To them it's nothing so they don't want us to worry, but the fact is that it actually makes us more anxious when we do catch them out. I'm sorry this happened to you Kirbear. Have you looked at the emetophobia website and resources and done the exposure therapy on there? Try to look forward to your weekend away, as hard as it may seem. I'm sure you'll have a great time
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Post by kirbear on Jan 11, 2017 8:54:13 GMT -5
Thank you. No I haven't looked. I feel like I should go back to the dr again and get referred somewhere. My CBT wasn't focused just on emet it was mostly health anxiety but emet came up a few times. My HA has taken a back seat to this now though xx
I will try, I will relax once I am there xx
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sopherzzx
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I was last sick...: I V* quite often now
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Post by sopherzzx on Jan 11, 2017 10:33:46 GMT -5
I know they try to lie to protect us, and because they don't want to see us anxious. But it's very angering that they do so, I want to know when it happens so that I can protect myself.
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eliza
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Post by eliza on Jan 11, 2017 10:55:16 GMT -5
Try to remember it's not always as easy to catch a sv as we sometimes assume it is, especially outside the home. Otherwise everyone would literally be ill all the time. You'll be okay, I know it's frustrating but I really don't think this upped your odds of catching anything by much, especially since she didn't v at work
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