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Post by kirbear on Jan 9, 2017 5:38:51 GMT -5
So, I am ok at rationalising things when it comes to giving advice to others. When it comes to me I'm not ok at all!
My husband and I are going away on Thursday evening until sunday on a trip we have always wanted to do but I am panicking one of us will be ill before or during!
My son went to a party on Saturday and one of the children didn't go because they have a sv*. Ok, that's fine he didn't come to the party but he will no doubt be back at school today (even though we have had messages constantly sent out saying 48 hrs after last bout). This then means he will be contagious and I'm terrified of my son brining it home. Also, I have come to work this morning and my colleague has left her daughter at home in bed this morning as she has belly ache and feels like she is going to v* so of course I'm panicking about said colleague bringing the germs in.
Also, my boss has called to say she's working from home as she's 'unwell'. I can only assume it's sv* as if she's had a cold or anything in the past she has been to work. I'm so anxious right now I just don't want anything to ruin this trip!
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Post by janebug on Jan 9, 2017 12:20:48 GMT -5
Hi Kirbear! It's really hard to rationalise your own fears, especially because you genuinely believe them with every inch of your being. I'm assuming you have taken trips away before with your husband, and that he knows about your emet? If so, take comfort in the fact that if anything does happen, there will be someone there with you to help you. In regards to your colleague and boss, take comfort in knowing that you don't have to touch them if you don't want to. Maybe invest in some dettol wipes you can shove in your handbag and wipe down around you at work if it makes you feel a little happier?
Sorry I can't suggest anything else, I can understand why you are so worried and anxious - I would be too. But, we are here for you! You're not alone in this x
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Post by kirbear on Jan 9, 2017 12:59:18 GMT -5
Yeah he knows about it, I think I get on his nerves! Haha
I am obsessed with the cleaning thing, I have bleach spray and cloths in my desk drawer. As soon as I get in I go over everything on my desk with the spray.
I had a meltdown at work today, the lady whose daughter was off school went home to her at lunch, she came back and said she's feeling better and has had some lunch (no v*) and she also had some lunch but now she feels like she's going to v* and has a bad head. Then the girl who sits next to me said she felt really dizzy and weird and her legs hurt, another girl in our office said that's how she started when her and her husband were off with d* and virus last week.
I called my supervisor over and she took me in to an office. She was so good with me but I had a proper meltdown, really sobbing. I'm tired of being like this I want to be 'normal'. I am away Thursday and terrified of getting ill. She has said I can take tomorrow and Weds off if need be and make my time up (I only work 3 days so can do a full week another time). I know I really should go to work but I'm so frightened xx
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Post by janebug on Jan 9, 2017 13:16:40 GMT -5
Whatever makes you feel happy you should do. Making up work is not a problem, and although to some this is irrational it is very real to us. Would you expect someone with raging depression to come into work? If you are genuinely terrified and anxious, be kind to yourself. But you must not let it ruin your time away!
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Post by kirbear on Jan 9, 2017 13:31:09 GMT -5
I feel like I don't want to go in but I know I will be kicking myself if I don't. I will see how I feel in the morning x thank you for your help Janebug! xx
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Post by amanda on Jan 9, 2017 16:29:59 GMT -5
I always struggle right before I take any trips. The closer I get to the day of travel my anxiety just takes off, I notice every little thing around me that seems risky, I think of all the worst case scenarios. It's super frustrating because it takes away part of the enjoyment of our trips. Then I go, have a good time, come home and just really feel annoyed that I let my anxiety get the best of me AGAIN. Just take it day by day. Focus on the moment that you are in and try to get as much out of the trip as you can. Make memories and remember that no matter what happens - even if you get sick - it's going to be ok and you can still enjoy the rest of your trip.
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Post by kirbear on Jan 9, 2017 17:14:48 GMT -5
Thank you Amanda!
I feel like my emet is much worse when I know something is coming up that I don't want to miss or be spoiled. Yes I still fear it even if I don't have any plans but I fear it slightly less so.
My colleagues who are also good friends are all really understanding - in fact the lady that said she felt really ill has literally just text me to see how I am bless her and to apologise for scaring me as she didn't realise my phobia was that bad and she wouldn't have said anything if she had known but I have told her not to feel bad and that I would rather know so then I can take measurements to avoid if that makes sense. I feel slightly silly about my meltdown now but everyone is being so sweet, they have all said I shouldn't come in tomorrow as I won't be able to relax but I don't think anybody actually has a sv* so I might brace it.
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Post by Itsme on Jan 9, 2017 17:26:53 GMT -5
I'm like this before our annual holiday. I am so worried about being ill on the plane. It is highly unlikely that any of these people have the bug, however if you need to stay home then do. Thinking of you. X
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Post by kirbear on Jan 9, 2017 17:36:03 GMT -5
Thank you!
Yes I am also scared of being ill on the plane and of course of other people being. I never used to be worried about me being ill in public but that has started within the last few months x
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Post by Itsme on Jan 9, 2017 17:40:39 GMT -5
It's the fear of having to be ill in the tiny toilet on a plane on my own as I have to have my husband with me if I'm ill and I'm a small person but no way two adults fit in an aeroplane loo!
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