princessmoon
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I was last sick...: December 2008
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Post by princessmoon on Jan 4, 2017 8:57:36 GMT -5
Hi, maybe it's because my 8th "anniversary" of not v*ing has recently passed, but I've been wondering about this. I'd really appreciate some honest thoughts.
I know that many of us partake in avoidance behavior when it comes to sickness. I've read many forum threads claiming that makes things worse, because the more you avoid it, the more that it becomes an "unusual" event in your mind.
Now personally, the last time I v*ed, I has awful OCD-like thoughts and superstitions about that day for months: about the number of times it happened, the color of clothing I wore, how it felt moments beforehand, etc. V*ing is what made my phobia spiral out of control in the first place. It took me years to get over those thoughts. And I'm scared that if I v*ed again, I'd suffer new superstitions and obsessive thoughts.
Yet I can see how avoiding it makes it worse too.
So, for those of you who are emet and have v*ed, did doing so help your fears at all? Or did it really make things worse for you?
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Post by kirbear on Jan 4, 2017 10:25:23 GMT -5
Hey.
I have had this phobia for as long as I can remember (I am now 33), I went through my whole pregnancy v* every morning and I also have had a few bouts of v* in my life. To be honest it doesn't stop my phobia however it doesn't make it worse. The lead up and the waiting to v* is the worst for me, I cannot explain why I am scared of doing it as I know from past experience that when I do v* it is nowhere near as bad as the fear itself.
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Post by amanda on Jan 4, 2017 13:03:23 GMT -5
I think it depends on a lot of factors and even the same person can have a different response at different times in their lives.
Like, if your anxiety is really high at a given time and then you happen to come down with one of the worst bugs you will ever get in your life, with multiple episodes for a prolonged time. That could definitely make things worse. (Because it confirms your fear... even though MOST of the times you will get a bug will not be that terrible.)
But then if you're at a time where your anxiety is neutral or low and you get a mild bug where you maybe vomit once or twice, it could easily help.
For me, the last time I was sick was at a point when my phobia/anxiety was already pretty low. Then I caught a bug which luckily was on the milder side. I fought off about 2-4 episodes of vomiting and then finally allowed it to happen once. And when it was over I thought to myself (like most of us do), "Well, that really wasn't that bad." I actually felt really proud of myself for doing it and it was really nice to just feel like a "normal" person.
Most of us have stated before that the nausea and the moments immediately preceding the event are the worst. But in time I think we forget that and the fear builds.
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Post by amanda on Jan 4, 2017 13:08:33 GMT -5
Hey. I have had this phobia for as long as I can remember (I am now 33), I went through my whole pregnancy v* every morning and I also have had a few bouts of v* in my life. To be honest it doesn't stop my phobia however it doesn't make it worse. The lead up and the waiting to v* is the worst for me, I cannot explain why I am scared of doing it as I know from past experience that when I do v* it is nowhere near as bad as the fear itself. x I've given a lot of thought to this because I also find the lead up to be the worst. I've finally come to the realization that a big part of my phobia and anxiety is related to control - and in those moments before it happens you have a complete feeling of loss of control of yourself. When you just know that your body is going to try it's hardest to vomit and you've reached a point where it's going to be really hard to fight that. I think the reason that I often have fought it (successfully through multiple different stomach bugs in my life) is more trying to get control back rather than because the act of vomiting is just so terrible that I can't stand it. With my last bug, I fought many episodes and then finally I CHOSE to do it because I was hoping it would stop the nausea so I could get some sleep. And it was like as soon as I decided "Ok I'm just going to do it because I'm so tired and I need to sleep" the anxiety about it decreased significantly.
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Manderberry
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I was last sick...: Jan. 2016 (FP)
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Post by Manderberry on Jan 4, 2017 13:18:39 GMT -5
A year ago I had food poisoning and suffered through a night of n*. At one point I fell asleep but woke up around 7 to the n* being worse. I fought off v* for 2 hours before I gave up fighting and v* twice in an episode. For whatever reason leading up to it I panic but while in the act it never is as bad as my mind makes it up to be. Anxiety is such a frustrating thing heh. There's no explanation as to why I panic badly beforehand.
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Post by docvape on Jan 4, 2017 18:46:09 GMT -5
Once it happens the fear is gone (for me) It can happen numerous times after that and I'll be fine.
3 days later when all is said and done? Best believe I'm right back to being afraid of it.
The worst part was the first one, not because it was some dreadful experience but it was happening and I was still fighting it, that was very dumb. I think the biggest part of the fear was it was 25 years since the last time it happened. 25 years.
Now adays I fear it more, why I don't know, I talk to drastically amount t of less people, I shared joints with people in the past who had it two days prior and didn't catch it. Been around people who v* while having not and didn't catch it. No I think I got it from food poisoning.
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princessmoon
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I was last sick...: December 2008
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Post by princessmoon on Jan 5, 2017 13:53:03 GMT -5
Thanks for the responses everyone, this is all really interesting insight!
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khernandez99
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Date Registered: 27 Dec 2016
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I was last sick...: 21 April 2012.
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Post by khernandez99 on Jan 7, 2017 13:51:07 GMT -5
I remember the last time I v* and I remember thinking a few days afterwards: Maybe it was not that bad, but I would never want to do it again. Days later, I went back to fear of it. Probably because I realized that it was still terrifying.
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sopherzzx
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I was last sick...: I V* quite often now
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Post by sopherzzx on Jan 8, 2017 22:23:30 GMT -5
Mine is on and off definitely, I think it helps immediately after and then the fear gradually creeps back ip. I had food poisoning from Taco Johns in 2013 and spent the whole night v* I was 12 years old(not having v* for 4 years before that) I wasn't too anxious about it because it all happened so quickly. But I remember many details from it. I remember I v* in the sink, and then apologized multiple times to my mother and got sick again at least 4 times throughout the night. I remember what I was wearing and I threw the clothes away completely because it reminded me of the night. And I didn't eat taco johns for 2 years after that. A teacher of mine helped me get over my fear of taco johns and I ate a churro while shaking on a school trip to taco johns, I still don't eat it often. After that my phobia definitely escalated. I've always had stomach issues myself so I get afraid often of v*. I v*ed recently on July 9th while staying at a friends house while my parents were on vacation. It was most likely my anxiety. I didn't v* after that until the first week of august (which happened to be swim camp week) and did it every morning that week. (Also probably anxiety). Immediately after I wasn't afraid but since then I've been diagnosed with IBS and my fears have escalated once again. I hardly wear the shirt I was wearing when I got sick one of the mornings because it reminds me, and I think it will happen again.
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eliza
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Post by eliza on Jan 10, 2017 21:15:16 GMT -5
For whatever reason leading up to it I panic but while in the act it never is as bad as my mind makes it up to be. Anxiety is such a frustrating thing heh. There's no explanation as to why I panic badly beforehand. Ditto! And This has never changed for me despite v* so I'm a little scared it won't now.
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Post by Razzle on Jan 10, 2017 22:49:26 GMT -5
Definitely the panic was the worst. The onslaught of d* for 3 hours prior did not help and I almost fainted from panic. When I did v*, ironically enough the n* wasn't that bad....I honestly think my body just couldn't rid itself of whatever I had fast enough the back door so it went through the emergency exit. While my stomach ABSOLUTELY was cramped from d*, th n* I felt was maybe, like, 3 min and then I v* twice.
Oh man it was so nasty but I was able to think through it, it's not like I forgot how to human or anything....the second round I just let my body do its thing. Once it was done it was like it didn't happen. Like I had no taste or anything...still felt terrible though.
As a kid I had superstitions about the clothes I wore when I v*. I threw shirts away that I wore as I was afraid of them. Last time though? Hell it was my favorite shirt...I still wear it once a week lol. And I even got some v* on it too.. that was kind of unpleasant at the time but I was more like "ah so that's what that smell was. Gross"
I think I yelled a few curse words when I v*, too. When I had d* this past Nov I almost v* (probably nerves) and I got pumped and started doing Rocky poses in my living room. I made a joke out of it. Of course nothing happened (but I am glad for that!)
Anyway, after my last episode I felt great but obviously my phobia came back (and in full force sadly) It waxes and wanes, but like most has said while v* isn't as bad as we make it out to be, v* doesn't stop the phobia for me.
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tash81
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I was last sick November 2016
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Post by tash81 on Jan 15, 2017 20:27:05 GMT -5
For me after I v* my phobia goes away for about a week. I v*d the first time in fifteen years this past November, and felt like I achieved great progress in my phobia but needless to say it didn't last long. And of course now there is a stomach virus is in my house and I am terrified that I will get it. But from my experience the anxiety of waiting for it is just as bad as the act of v*
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